24 Aug 2011
~A note for anyone who wants to apologize for anything so as to be forgiven:
1. When saying "I apologize" be precise what you are sorry for, because the person who is offended wants to know that you realize which part of your behaviour brought the pain.
2. It is vital to say that you will never do such a thing again because without this promise the hurt person will still expect it from you.
3. While waiting for forgiveness, which may not occur immediately after you've said 'sorry', don't forget to do multiple acts of kindness towards the person, thus, demonstrating that you are good to them without being depending on the fact of their forgiveness.
Those, who fail to do all the three of the above, may be misunderstood in their good intentions.
*Tested on humans. N~*
PS Bear in mind that, even if the stones you threw were small, it is very hard to collect them all, if they were many.
Just Thoughts Aloud 21 Jul 2013
~What's your attitude to people whom you rely on and order a professional service from them, paying everything you can or even everything you have, but eventually receive a cheaty and crooky product as the result? As for me, I tend to quit such a relationship after the job is done and not to advertise their names to anyone, avoiding their presence in my life, so as not to feel fooled again.
When music producers hire a professional video production team with high definition camera and powerful light equipment, they do it on purpose. Why do they rent expensive facilities instead of going cheap? Because they want the cool high quality result. And when, in the end of the long exhausting work of preparations, filming and montage, they are given the product with the low quality compressed output, must you be happy with the guys who have cheated you? What would your feelings towards that technical personnel be?? Now, have you still got any questions to me in regard why I have been silencing certain names all these years without giving them "proper" advertising, without boosting the story and escalating the hurt to an open conflict and a scandallious confrontation??? Or should have I praised them with gratitude? I don't think so...
Unfortunately, we haven't been often lucky with genuine people on our way, in our creative collaboration. However, certain folks, without knowing all the truth in details, have been accusing me of being egocentric, "forgetful". The fact is, that, unless anyone has done me wrong, I'm a most loyal and grateful person you can find on Earth. But in case there was an offence towards me, especially in regard to the things I treat seriously, which mean the world to me, I behave adequately. It was impossible for me and even ridiculous to supply everything with remarks explaining the disappointing nuances, and hostile groups have used my silence against me. Probably, I've started to say it all out too late, after unhealable damage has been done onto my reputation, but still, it's better late than never. I want our blind and deaf enemies to see and hear my truth now, after their having fighting for theirs. I'm not a monster they've made of me. I had to defend myself and my values the way I could, but this doesn't make me "bad" the way they have been presenting me.
22 Jul 2013
I'm neither vile nor mean, and I never contrive wicked plans. Thank you for understanding the way I am the right way. It's not a crime to trust people, to like people, to love people, to mercy people, but I've been severely punished for doing so throughout my life, and, hence, sure thing, I won't anymore, the way I used to, since I've learnt my lesson well. I'm not missing the extra suffering, because it has been there, and it has stayed with me forever as my everyday physical pain that always reminds me not to be wasteful with my heart... Still grateful to life and all the good people on my way for bringing me joys and sharing with me the moments of happiness. ♥ N~*
A Letter to A Friend 18 Jul 2013
Oh, yes, I'm happy. Happiness is just a matter of your attitude. I've learnt this a hard way, just had to, on my own mis-takes, after having gone through lots of ad-versities. Everything is cognized in comparison - think about people whom are very many, who happen to appear in much worse circumstances than we. They would envy us. Hence, it's wise to be happy about what you have and treasure evey little thing. I do. Still, I strive to be happier. I still have a dream, several dreams. However, only very few dreams can come true, it's about all of us, not just me. But as long as we live, we persue our hopes, we believe. Don't we? Your message sounded somewhat sad, friend. Cheer up! ... No matter what it is or seems, life is beautiful and is worth living longer - never forget! No one really knows God's master plan for each of us. But I somewhat feel that it does depend on what we do, what we think, what we want... ♥ N~*
MYSTERY
~There are three types of MYSTERY in our lives. The first one is NEUTRAL - it is like a distant planet or star in the sky, it is there but it is of no vital significance to you. The second is the one that brings you DELIGHT - like a rainbow or aurora lights that seem to be quite close to you within your reach, you look at them in a state of overwhelming awe and smile. The third type is that brings you SORROW - like an earthquake or tsunami that interferes right where you are and ruins all around on its way... Useless to say, which mysteries do attract us and which don't. We only want goodness for ourselves. A mystery that does you harm is our enemy, we don’t want it.
So are the people. Each of them is a mystery for one another. Some are just neutral passers-by for us who don't affect your lives much. Some when entering your life bring you JOY, and you always want them there because of this - they fill the existence with pleasure, they improve the quality of your environment. It is our friend. Others are evil-doers who bring DESTRUCTION into your well-being, they may corrupt your wealth or health, they disrupt your peaceful state of mind and misbalance your walking. Why would we want these? Of course, we don’t.
So, we only want a mystery for ourselves which is a permanent source of JOY, not a permanent source of GRIEF. No one wants physical pain. No one wants mental suffering. We naturally reject abuse, we don’t need it. But with no hesitation we accept joyful gifts.
Still, it is typical for a curious mind to try and disclose the mystery. If it is a GOOD mystery, we want to know its secret so that to be able to prolong its action, to attach it to our place for good. If it is a BAD mystery, we want to reveal it so that to be capable of escaping it, preventing its influence. There’s no greater satisfaction for an explorer than to open the secret and say: ‘Hey, here you are! I got you!’ However, when our mind, after having tried to do all possible and due to all kinds of limitations, is not able to accomplish the research and disclose the secret that has been bothering us, for the sake of the mind's wellness it is better to let go and instead enjoy the miracles that are there and still bring you happiness – they are so many all around. Don’t focus on what destroys you. Don’t let the uncovered mystery drive you insane and make a miserable creature of you. The UNANSWERED QUESTION ‘WHY’ that ONLY teases and provides with no explanations is a source of ILLNESS for a smart brain. Tested on me… This is why I do not want any mystery in my life that instead of enjoyment offers me torture…
This is what I’ve learnt. I’ve learnt that when a source of irritation tries to disturb and break me – I MUST ignore it. I’ve learnt that when I am given a piece of happiness, I just gratefully take it. It is all I can do in regard to the mysterious beings called PEOPLE when facing them on my path…
And if YOU want to be welcomed in my heart, PLEASE, bring me HAPPINESS along with the MYSTERY OF YOU. :) I’ve had enough of craziness investigations, and enough is enough. All I need is PEACE, LOVE, JOY, HARMONY. And I hope you need the SAME. ♥ N~*
POVERTY
~Not everyone's destination is to be a successful business owner and a financial magnate. Some are engineers, others are clerks. Workmen. Artists. Teachers.
But we are all cogwheels of one integral mechanism - our WORLD.
And even if you appear to be a "smaller" wheel in the system, you are NOT inferior, you ARE vital. Without you the organism will malfunction or die.
You may be just a cashier who sells tickets in a park of attractions for children - still you are EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. You fulfill your function.
And it does not mean you must live in POVERTY and MISERY, unlike the WEALTHY POWERFUL of the globe.We ALL need to be HAPPY and SATISFIED like a NORMAL person MUST, so that our world didn't CRASH.
STOP the GREED. ♥ N~*
~A note for anyone who wants to apologize for anything so as to be forgiven:
1. When saying "I apologize" be precise what you are sorry for, because the person who is offended wants to know that you realize which part of your behaviour brought the pain.
2. It is vital to say that you will never do such a thing again because without this promise the hurt person will still expect it from you.
3. While waiting for forgiveness, which may not occur immediately after you've said sorry, don't forget to do multiple acts of kindness towards the person, thus, demonstrating that you are good to them without being depending on the fact of their forgiveness.
Those, who fail to do all the three of the above, may be misunderstood in their good intentions.
*Tested on humans. N~*
PS Bear in mind that, even if the stones you threw were small, it is very hard to collect them all, if they were many. ♥ N~*
24 Aug 2011
WHAT WE CANNOT HAVE...
~MY RESPONSE in this regard: I only looked at boys I cannot have when I was young and immature. No offence meant, just sharing how it happens to ME after I have gone through a certain experience in my life, long long ago. So, here it is: I can "make" myself FALL IN LOVE with ANY man - you, whoever - but I allow myself to do so ONLY if this man looks at me and shows me he cares! I can "make" myself fall in love so deep that I will suffer from it and curse the day when I did so, if this love on that man's part appears just a game. But... the problem is that when I am already fallen there (in love) there is no easy way out. Because I do not "play" as it may seem - I live it, I breath it, I survive the most real joys and tortures of the love... The SECRET is the following: you CAN LOVE ANYONE if you MAKE DETERMINATION for yourself, if you WANT to make such a determination. I NEVER LOOK AT ANYTHING I CANNOT HAVE - you are VERY WRONG ABOUT IT. As I mentioned above, I ONLY love in response to the adequate interest. NEVER I WILL FOLLOW A MAN who hasn't acted to move me first! How wrong... !!! Each and every of us is a HUMAN who DESERVES TO BE LOVED, who IS BORN TO BE LOVED - it is only the matter of SEEING THE PERSON THIS WAY, SEEING HIS VIRTUES (which ANYONE has), and just DARE AND DIVE INTO THE LOVE like you dive into the ocean from a mountain. This step is your DETERMENATION, your CHOICE, your DARE, your RISK, your RESPONSIBILITY: TO JUMP DOWN takes ONE MOMENT, YOU CAN JUMP DOWN, BUT! YOU CAN NOT JUMP UP OUT OF THE WATER ONTO THE MOUNTAIN BACK - in case you want to climb there back you will have to climb FOR AGES... This is how it works for ME. And... there are TONS OF MEN around (like there are TONS OF WOMEN FOR YOU TO WATCH AND INTERACT TOO) but I only choose ONE to fall in love AT A TIME, the time that does not last a day or a month or even a year, but much longer, because the determination is FOR EVER. PS And I do NOT have a new DETERMINATION to jump. I DO NOT WANT ANY MORE! I'm still swimming in my ocean... ♥ N~*
21 Jun 2011
ALICE IN WONDERLAND... (in regard to PRACTICE).
"There is no use trying," said Alice,"one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."- Lewis Carroll
/ Practice, discipline, over and over... (Alexis Shamanah Rhigas)
Hm... What an interesting point of view on this quote. I used to see and feel it quite differently. Since the Queen is an extremely negative character ("off with their heads!"), her preaching about "believing" by means of just making physical efforts - "practicing", not with your whole heart, sounds utterly sarcastic, AS FOR ME. :) Because belief is something that does come from the bottom of the heart and it does not require pushing - you either believe or not... But, again, it is only my personal point of view, based on my own feel of the author and the book - maybe, the traditional way how critiques see it is more like yours... After all, everyone can see in this book what their individual experience prompts... :) In ANY book... :)))
Also, here we can see the hint to why the Queen has become so careless to everything and cruel to everyone - she used to be told lies, many lies a day, which she listened to in the "morning reports", and being naive, took them for truth, at least tried to take for truth - "practiced". But what did it lead to? After having discovered those were all "impossible things", she got disappointed, in everything and everyone. Her dream castle tumbled down. And in the misery of realization of this, she started to crash everyone in return - "off with their heads"... This is what I feel about it. Too many lies are a destructive thing to practice. We must try and practice the true things, things that will work and build our reality afterward, rather than disappoint us of remaining just unreachable clouds in the sky of our broken imagination...
Third point. Alice, being a child, is the symbol of PURE understanding of NATURE and the world's order. She takes everything openheartedly, as any child, and, as any child, she DOES believe "impossible things" (what child does not believe in fairy tales?) - she merely has the unspoiled "meter" of the possible and impossible, the good and the bad, in her heart. The more you are a child within, with less burden of twisted wisdoms created by adults and bitter experiences of life's communications, the more you are close to the God's original creation of pure love and openness. You can believe without practice, just because you are still the one with the nature - with animals and fishes, with reptiles and insects, with trees and flowers, with matters and elements, with everything and everyone. We, grown-up people, don't need to powder the obvious human knowledge of the GOODNESS with any knowledge that splits us into groups by means of intricate words, notions and definitions... They don't serve our peace. The matter of the GOOD is one for all of us, for each and every: the feel of the GOOD is the same pre-written within us. Don't let us argue over simple clear things... Let us simply practice the GOOD. ♥ N~*
27 Jun 2011
My response to a guy who invites me to chat with him...
~I wrote a note which I want to name:
"My response to a guy who invites me to chat with him..."
Here it is.
Just another friendly advice.
Next time when you happen to want to catch some special attitude of a woman who has invited you to her music page, bear in mind that it is much more important for her to hear your words of appreciation in regard to her songs and visuals rather than the looks in her photographs, because it is in modeling art where the photos are the resulting thing itself, while photos in music art are only an accompaniment for the music.
Since I did not see either likes or comments of yours on my music page after I invited you there, it serves creating my idea of your not being interested, and why would I talk to a guy who does not care about my inner world and who is only concerned with my physical looks? As I stated before, a soulmate is a rare thing to find, and whom I've been looking for in social websites are soulmates who would appreciate my soul efforts.
They only appeared to be very few people so far, in many years. Some guys tried their best to say insencere things pretending to seem to like what I do, but the time revealed them to be untrue.
For instance, a guy who bought my album did not even care to listen to all the songs on it, and when I mentioned a certain song's name he asked me if it was new. Such small details make it all clear. I have got many more examples.
Thus, if a man appears to only be interested in my body, and does not really intend to support me in my soul's endeavours like my music project is for me, these guys turn to be not quite ineteresting for me as well - why would they?
Why would I spend years on talking to them, if in the end it appears that they lead absolutely separate and different lives from mine, and they have absolutely different goals and outlooks, and they never speak true facts about themselves and their lifestyle, and they have their official and inofficial wives and lovers of whom they never make me aware, and I only appear to be their somewhat descreet toy in one of their hidden places on the net. Why would I need such people in my life?
After all of my long experience on the net, I no longer want to spend years on useless chatting with lonely guys who only treat me as a sexual entertainment - life is too precious to waste it so. I have already wasted tons of time on things that appeared disgusting in the end - some guys on the net even managed to disclose things that were intended for one man's eyes only to be available to the whole groupies of jerks, and merely seeing me was not enough for them, they even dared comment it aloud to me and dispose me in an ugly way to others.
And they were those who claimed to be and whom I as well considered to be my friends - just as nice guys as you are.
The majority of guys only treat a beautiful woman as a silly stupid doll for fun, which I no longer want to be.
You are concerned why b*tches on your list don't talk to you. In the same way I used to be concerned why the guys on my list do not support my music.
After I've learnt the answer why (them having their different lives and priorities other than mine) I am no longer bothered with them as well.
I do not want to be treated as one of many, those who do appreciate me - they know perfectly well that I am one of a kind, and I need this special attitude from people who want my special attitude in return.
I'll save this message as a template to send other guys who invite me to chat without caring to visit my music page first and acknowledging their love and support towards my soul FIRST.
The best attention from me would be my commenting their posts in FB stream if it matches my mood and time - and nothing more.
I cannot and do not want to share my life with anyone merely because I attract their eyes - I am interested in finding soulmates who would support me with all of their heart, and WILL NOT BE ASHAMED OF MY COMPANY AND APPRECIATING (PROMOTING) MY MUSIC AND ART IN HE EYES OF ANY OTHER PEOPLE ANYWHERE ON THE NET. AND WHO WILL ALSO BE DEFENDING ME INSTEAD OF OFFENDING.
I do not force anyone to do it, however. One cannot give commands to anyone's heart - you either LIKE something or you DO NOT LIKE.
And I, after getting years of experience, am certain now about some things that I like and I don't like.
You may as well delete me from your list after reading it - I'll understand.
I hope you have no more further questions. ♥ N~*
27 Aug 2011
RESPECT & MONEY, AGE, HELP, KNOWLEDGE, JUSTICE, PEACE.
~Well, I don't know why some associate me with "new age" people through money. If you think it is all about money to me, you're blindly mistaken. Money is only about business and job!! A man MUST get money for the job he does because he MUST pay for food, rents, etc. A business responsibility is another side of this issue.
As for the inner and outer... You know, no one has cancelled aging, especially when you don't do surgery. To gain extra fat and wrinckles is natural, and some deseases that you are already born with, will add to this, of course... We all know examples of healthy bastards who lived to 80-90 after having "helped" millions of people to die (like nazi criminals, for instance), etc. We also know brilliant personalities who died young of illnesses or accidents...
Life is a complicated thing, that's for sure. And we are not gods to know all its secrets. One thing I am sure of - RESPECT is the key. We cannot LOVE everyone (it is about chemistry, tastes), but we can RESPECT, if we do not love or like, not kick and jerk. I will never respect a person who shows disrespect towards me, or preaches me, or deceives me.
We all - EVERYONE - have our unique way to live our lives, to obtain our PERSONAL knowledge, and yes, to bring this knowledge to others and HELP, if we can. There are common HUMAN rules that we must follow - be to others the way you want them to be to you.
This is the clue to JUSTICE. If someone does wrong to me, I will not do the same to them, because it is NOT what I want to be done from me - in this case I will simply go from their way. I hate wars, I am peaceful. But I'll do everything I can to defend my PEACE. ♥ N~*
19 Jun 2011
BLUE THREAD (Reminder of Murdering)
~Yesterday in my status I asked the question, if anybody knew what a blue thread should remind people of, according to the Bibile.
Well, I was shocked when I read this episode in the Holy Book.
Think yourself, people:
As you all probably know from the plot, God told Moses to tell his people to abide his 10 holy laws, one of which was prohibiting working on Saturdays.
What happened then, and what the blue thread has to do with it?
Read:
Once, when walking about the sand desert on Saturday, Moses's people met a STRANGER, who was picking "wood" (well, some dry plants' branches, for making a fire, my remark). They grabbed the foreigner and brought him to Moses, and asked what they were supposed to do with him. Moses "held a council" with God, and God instructed them to kill that poor human being (how on earth could he have known about Moses' people's laws?!) by means of throwing stones at him. Well, the crowd DID so, they DID KILL the stranger.
Afterwards, God told Moses to tell his people to put blue threads into the people's clothes, so that when they looked at those blue threads, they reminded them to not forget about the laws given by God to them. Now think a bit... Don't you feel ANYTHING WRONG about the above?
...
Well, if you want to know what I think about it, here you are:
1. The Bible was written by people, rewritten many times, and! lots of its parts were taken away from it and kept in top secret inaccessible archives by the religious men at power - CHURCH. Why? To give the instructions to people and rule them precisely the way they needed.
2. I agree that God talks to people through mediums - chosen individuals - how else He can? But being humans these selected individuals do remain people, who CAN AND DO MISTAKES , even if they are smart and intelligent like no others are - Errare Humanum Est.
3. I consider OBEYING CRIMINAL ORDERS is one of the most unhuman acts on our planet that people do. Remember the recent "AVATAR" movie? What turned the story to a happy ending? Exactly! Disobeying the criminal orders by the three conscious individuals (the scientists and the military helicopter female pilot). Their action made it possible to SAVE THE WHOLE WORLD FROM COMPLETE DESTRUCTION.
AND... to my current mood OF AN OUTSTANDING OUTCAST:
WHEN A CROWD OF CERTAIN PEOPLE CHOOSES TO ENTHUSIASTICALLY THROW STONES AT YOU, WANTING TO SEE YOU SUFFER AND EVEN DEAD, IT IS MOST PROBABLE THEY MUST BE MISTAKEN TO DO SO - THEY ARE ALL MERELY HUMANS... SORRY ABOUT ALL OUTSTANDING OUTCASTS EXPERIENCING PAIN FROM PEOPLE'S ATTITUDE.
Thank you to all, who have read this.
PS Don't ever forget, that when you point your finger at someone, three fingers are pointing back at you. ♥ N~*
23 Feb 2010
Three Figures You Should Learn To Sacrifice...
If you want to be success
in the game of chess
NaMeD
LOVE,
you should learn to sacrifice
Three FigureS -
Pride, Anger, Obstinacy,
and
allow them to be beaten
by
Pliancy, Compassion, Forgiveness. ♥ N~*
29 Jan 2010
...when Artists paint, when Musicians play...
When artists paint, when musicians play - they do it for you. Don't be misled with their "prosperity", they do ART through SACRIFICING their lifetimes. ART is ARTIFICIAL, it is ILLUSION, and, anyway, it helps you get through, leads you, directs you, lights your way, it inspires, it moves and makes you think and re-think your life. It gives pleasure.
Art brings you LOVE of its creators' SOULS.
Don't be ENVIOUS.
Be GRATEFUL.
Don't HATE.
APPRECIATE. ♥ N~*
30 Jan 2010
My MySpace
www.myspace.com/abandashake
This Page Is For My SoulMates...
I am often asked why I have deleted them from my friend list. To not repeat it and type it all over for everyone anew, I have decided to post this brief explanation.
I have two more identical AbaNDa SHAKE music pages on myspace - http://myspace.cpm/abandashake000 and http://myspace.cpm/abandashakemusic - first registered in the USA zone, second in the UA zone. Before deleting anyone from this, current and original, page - http://myspace.com/abandashake - I send a friend request to the above pages. They are pages which I regularly visit and exchange comments with those who post comments for me.
Now. What kind of people I want to surround me on THIS page? Who are SoulMates for me?
Well, all of you listen to music. You all have your tastes and preferences. You all have your collections of your favourite tracks, in your computers, inside of your telephones, in your home CD libraries, etc.
When I write MY MUSIC, I put all of my essence into it. The lyrics are my thoughts, they are the message I convey to you, based on my own life's joys or troubles that I survive, which by means of my talent, given me from above and which I enhance through practice, I transform into poetic language. The sound of my music itself brings you my mood, the atmosphere of my world. Same I can say about creating my videos - they are my world transformed through the prism of my artistic vision, that I share with you. Thus, parts of my soul are concentrated in my art. Thus, when you listen to my music and see my videos, you get the idea of me as a personality.
When I create, I very carefully choose every word and note to be in their place. Nothing is incidental, every part is thoroughly weighed, though initially each of my music message is born under a rush of inspiration, which visits me witout a prior notice. Still, when it comes to the development of the sketches, hurriedly recorded on a piece of paper or dictophone, then I put all of my skills and professionalism into the work.
As any artist I may not be completely satisfied with the final result - there is always a way to make it more perfect, and I DO do it in my next creations. Yet, I LOVE my songs. They are my children, my babies. And if me, and my partner, love it, it means THERE ARE PEOPLE in the world that MAY LOVE it too. These people I look for. For if they hear my music, and it touches the same strings in their souls, that are touched in mine, they ARE my REAL SoulMates - they survive the things and percieve the world the same way as I do, they have got similar life knowledge to put their experience through their hearts and minds like I do.
So. When you hear my music, and you say to yourself: WOW, I LOVE IT, and when you DO WANT TO HAVE MY SONGS IN YOUR FAVOURITE MUSIC COLLECTION, you are my long-awaited FRIEND - I will feel at ease with you to discuss life. I will not have to persuade you to LOVE AND APPRECIATE ME.
I too often have to EXPLAIN MYSELF, as if I'm guilty of something, I'm too often accused of being petty or mercantile, WHICH I AM NOT AND NEVER HAVE BEEN - I send off my albums and other souvenirs for free to the people who have shown appreciation to me, and I do not count how much it costs me. I simply hate to be treated arrogantly or simply be underestimated by snobs. I want to create a dream island here, on which I and my friends will feel comfortable. It is MY SPACE, in the end. I give you an opportunity to get acquainted with me, and you're free to stay or go if you like.
I don't require from you to fall in love with me at first sight - that is why there exist two other pages for you, to get used to me, and, maybe, change your mind about my music and attitude towards me as a human being, with my distinguished character and habits.
Please, don't be offended when I send you to another page - it is actually YOUR choice, not mine. It is your taste, your preference. I cannot and don't want to force you to love me, if it's not your cup of tea. We would be good mates, simply mates, on the other pages, in a traditional MySpace way - we will say Hello and WellWishes to each other.
But at THIS place I want to meet people to whom I'm more than just a pretty envelope. Here I want people who understand and appreciate my soul's efforts. Whom I feel at home with...
THANK YOU for your UNDERSTANDING, APPRECIATION, LOVE and SUPPORT.
Cordially, ♥ N~*
31 Jan 2010
Ideology vs. Biology ♥ © Natali Dali (my “political” remarks from conversations with friends, fans and strangers)
Romantic Love Class
What is Love? Sacred components of Love are every little thing - when you fall in love, it is a bouquet of things about the person, not something alone. You love for the bunch of sensations and visions. If some aroma or colour had been missing, you would have not chosen this exactly bouquet. Sweetly perfumed dreams... If you're alone, close your eyes, and may your pillow turn for a soft shoulder of your beloved who awaits you on the other side of the reality...
Impossible to count all the blue roses that have grown in my garden... Days of making summaries are so blue indeed...
I cannot demand justice from the whole world, I cannot demand from all the people to be fair towards me, but I can demand it from the man who loves me, because who else can I turn to to have it? If you want my back, help bring me back what has been stolen from me - my confidence, my trust, my balance.
An advice to any man. If you want a close relationship with a woman, but if you cannot give her what it normally requires, so as to avoid tragedies, you should tell her from the very start that you are only supposed to date in your dreams, that your love is only possible in a virtual way, instead of giving her deceitful promises to make it real some day. If she loves you, she will agree even for a distant loving. But if, instead, some day later she finds out that she has been only a toy in your game, that you only have said beautiful words that could never come true, her heart will break and the love will face a dead end. No one likes to be cruelly joked, especially when it deals with your sacred feelings and dreams.
A REMINDER: If a man DEARLY loves a woman he will find a way to send her a birthday gift, ESPECIALLY if he failed to do so previously. If not - he's just playing you, girl, thinking of his own fun without caring about your hurt feelings. You can forgive his "forgetfulness" once, you can swallow your pride twice, but number three is the death sentence for the illusive love...
The truth is that when someone really loves you - you are the best of the best for him/her, they will never put you in a line, you will always be their priority.
When I was younger, I thought it might be okay, but the older I get the more confident I become that I only can feel most comfortable (the way it is supposed to be in a relationship or marriage) with people who share my perception of the world - who love the things I love, who CAN indeed understand me and feel what I do. Relationship with someone different inside sooner or later brings suffering and your "half" will constantly go from you away to look for things you cannot compensate for him-her. A real soulmate is a rare thing, and different beliefs only make it worse, of course. I would never stand if my husband every day preached my peaceful soul to go and fight with some enemy whom he sees outside his own belief.
The fatal eternal mistake of a woman who falls in love with a WOMANIZER is her endless hoping he will be able to change his ways FOR HER. No, He WILL NOT. He forgets you after he gets you.
Regarding a womaniser type (from a random dialogue online): I assume there weren't lots of high IQ women on his list who were HAPPY with his behaviour, and if there have been any clever captured by him, they might have been only conquered by means of cheating. If you find cheating is a SMART act, it's your right to think so. But, as for me, a really smart man is the one who would conquer a woman in an honest way. Hence, I'm pretty sure a clever woman would NOT want to be one of his lovers EVEN IF HE OFFERED IT TO HER IN AN HONEST MANNER. Because many women like me do consider that a man may only have two loves at a time - one in the past and the other in the present. Don't try to reassure me, I've got my experience of many years to be certain of what I am talking about. Educated, classy, smart - I see so many of SUCH women around who merely bought these statuses in lives for money, but have never been such at secondary schools where all children were given equal chances to show their abilities and manners, and at that time they were FAR from what their PARENTS bought for them later: colleges, fashion, cars, clubs, cruises. They INDEED are FAKE and SPOILED, not intelligent in their hearts. Such were probably the ones WHO ENJOYED Casanova's love, not the TRUE intelligent ones for whom this would be DISGUSTING... I have encountered quite a lot of men who think they are smart when they conquer women by means of cheating. It is not smart - it is ugly. A casanova character is typical for all times. Some examples were merely put down in literature and we know of them as "heroes" which they are not at all. I have seen tons of such in my life. Don't underestimate the humanity - smart men and women existed in ALL times, all types of them. And cheaters too. And I DISLIKE THEM. Some crooks are cunning, yes, and certain type of men qualify to be named this. I don't think it is smart to tell lies, to deceive, to cheat. It is cunning, but not smart. If CERTAIN WOMEN LOVE TO BE LOVED MANY AT A TIME - good for them, and their casanovas. Let them be. For me, it stays a DISGUSTING THING. Smart people are the ones who achieve their goals in a NOBLE manner, without inventing stories to mislead you and playing you to confuse. Disgusting - this word is correct, indeed, to use towards them cheating crooks.
The man who "worships" many women at a time - don't be upset or surprised on the day when the one with the highest self-esteem leaves your harem - not every woman who respects herself is fond of being "one of". Oh, those women... We are like this, yes. Jealous. Even those who don't show it.
Man, when you make a proud count of how many women you satisfied, don't forget to bear in mind the number of the hearts you broke.
Love is PARTNERSHIP, when you give as much as you want to get. (Providing it's a true decent heartfelt partnership when no one deceives the other one.) Love is more than just sex, lust. Love is first of all walking in ONE DIRECTION with someone special, with whom you share THE SAME DREAM AND GOAL, when the dream of one is the goal of the two.
^Что такое любовь? Тайные компоненты её - это каждая деталь; когда ты влюбляешься, это букет всех характеристик человека, это не что-то одно. Ты любишь за всю охапку ощущений и видений. Если бы какой-то аромат или цвет отсутствовал, то ты не выбрал бы именно этот букет.
� ✩ ♡ © Natali Dali - Наталі Далі - Натали Дали
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Natali Dali = projects: 1A KamaNDa ( 1:iNDigoDigNity ) = AbaNDa SHAKE
= AbaNDa DRIVE = AbaILa DRIVE = Наталья Даль (Natalya Dal) = Natali
Dali - A MISS oN A MISSioN = origin: Наталья Антонова (Наталя Антонова / Natalia Antonova) - 26 Jan 1972, Nikolayev, Ukraine (USSR)
